Is parenthood the death of marital happiness?

Rod Dreher, The American Conservative, 12/8/2011

Sociologists Elizabeth Marquardt and W. Bradford Wilcox find evidence that it doesn't have to be, if couples are willing to live by certain rules... Our report suggests, in contrast, that in today's marriages both wives and husbands benefit when they embrace an ethic of marital generosity that puts the welfare of their spouse first. That is, both are happier in their marriages when they make a regular effort to serve their spouse in small ways – from making them a cup of coffee, to giving them a back rub after a long day, to going out of their way to be affectionate or forgiving. So the lesson here is not for wives now to throw off an other-centered ethic as a relic of an ancient era, but rather for contemporary husbands to embrace this ethic for themselves and their families.

Subjects: Family, Parenthood, Marriage


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